When you read this post, keep in mind that I am less that two weeks away from getting married. We have only just now booked our honeymoon and hotel for after the wedding, Carl does not have his suit tailored, no marriage license, the groomsmen’s suspenders arrived in the wrong color, after taking home my wedding dress found a rip front and center on it, and we have 50+ guests who haven’t RSVPed. In short, I know stress.
Surprisingly enough I haven’t murdered anyone or tried to runaway. I still love my fiance, I haven’t broken anything or cried (more than once or twice). I know right? The key to everyone’s safety is to not let myself get too stressed. How do I do that? Well my friend, I am going to tell you.
Keep the main goal in mind.
With any big project or task, there is one main purpose you need to accomplish. For me, that’s getting married. As long as I’m married to Carl at the end of the day, the wedding was a success. So what if the groomsmen’s suspenders are neon green and I had to glue a piece of lace back together on my dress? The main goal is getting accomplished so there’s no need to freak out.
Remind yourself of the worst that can happen and how you are prepared.
Worst case scenario we forget our marriage license and our officiant wont marry us. We have attendees that are ordained and will let that little detail slide. Say we forget or lose the rings? We have them covered with insurance and whatever round thing we can find will work for the ceremony. Things go wrong, reminding yourself of the possibilities and how you are prepared for them eases up the stress.
Get help from others.
Have a work deadline to meet and you’re freaking out? Tell your significant other or roommate that you need them to cook dinner/do the laundry/drive the kids to practice or whatever needs doing so you can get your work done. You can’t do everything alone. There’s always going to be at least one person who is ready to help you out when you’re in need.
Suck it up and do what you’re dreading.
A lot of time we cause ourself stress by putting off things we need to do. What’s the point of waiting days to do something you have to do when you can do it right now and not have to worry about it anymore? You probably try and tell yourself you don’t have time, but in reality you just don’t make it a priority. I promise it wont take as much time as you think and it’s worth putting something on hold so you can get that crappy task out of the way.
Remember the things you should be enjoying.
I’ve made it clear to everyone that wedding week is vacation week. Yes there will be last minute things to get done, but heaven help anyone that tries to make a big deal out of any of them. The big things will be taken care of already so anything else is just a bonus. Remember the things you should be enjoying even when there’s work to be done. Yes you have that work deadline, but enjoy your dinner with your loved ones. Tomorrow might be the biggest interview of your life, but enjoy the movie you’re watching or the long shower you’re taking. Even in the busiest most stressful times there are pieces of happiness to be found. Don’t let those slip away and go unnoticed.
Does that help any of you out there? So far it’s helped me. There’s still 12 days left for me to go on a murderous rampage and kill everyone within a 10 mile radius, but for now I’ve been keeping it together.
Any suggestions to add to this list?