So, I’ve been feeling a bit down this week. Here’s the thing.  We can be really hard on ourselves and things like Facebook, Instagram and Twitter make it that much easier to criticize. For me, wedding planning is overwhelming, being an adult is hard and my apartment is messy.

The worst thing is everyone I know is getting married or just got married.  That’s a lot of wedding pictures and planning going on.  That also means there’s a lot of wedding and life stuff happening across social media.  I don’t know if it’s just me, but it seems like everyone is having beautiful weddings for their financially stable lives.  And then there’s me…not that at all.

As I took a little bit of time today to cry think about everything, I was able to refocus on reality.  Happiness does not depend on other people.  Playing the comparison game will get you nowhere.  Taking a minute (or 90) helped me focus back on the happy, here’s some helpful tips get get you out of a slump.

Your happiness is whatever you decide it to be.  There are so many ways to get back to happy.

STOP COMPARING

Comparison is the thief of joy.  I might be quoting something wrong, but it’s still true.  You can’t judge a person’s life by what you see on social media.  A picture might be worth a thousand words, but a Facebook album is not a biography.  I read a blog by a girl I know who has fabulous clothes, and I have  always wondered way more often than I should about how she can afford that life and how I wish I could.  Then it occurred to me one day, I honestly don’t know if she even can afford that life.

People who seem to have the perfect wardrobe and perfect house can be in serious debt.  Those with a seemingly perfect relationship may fight behind closed doors.  Those who seem to have the perfect body may never be satisfied with what they see in the mirror.  Don’t let what you see online make you forget that every person has issues.

THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU HAVE

There are people with less things than you and are happy.  When I think about how someone just got new $200 boots or have all their wedding planning done, I try and think about what I have.  Carl was able to buy his suit for the wedding at 70% off.  I don’t have any student loans.  My car is paid for.  We have somewhere rent free to live after the wedding.  I’m lucky enough to have a fantastic man who loves me, even if I don’t have a fabulous wardrobe.  There’s always a reason to be grateful.

TAKE A BREAK FROM SOCIAL MEDIA

Facebook is a lie.  Instagram has all those filters for a reason.  And you can’t tell the whole story in 140 characters. Stop looking at all those sites and thinking they’re real life.  Take a week or even just a day to focus on you, your family, your home, anything but what’s online.  I don’t think anybody who has done this has regretted it.

START A GRATITUDE JOURNAL

Sometimes all you need is to sit down and think about all the things you are thankful for.  Very few days are going to be 100% perfect, but there are always going to be moments to be thankful for each day.  Start a journal and aim to write 5 things you’re thankful for each try.  Even better, try and come up with something new each day.

What do you do when you’re feeling down?

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  • CJ

    This is a wonderful post and something that is my goal every single day. I, too, have been caught up in the depressing state of social media blues. Everyone posts their best on social media (and blogs) and while it can be wonderful to connect, it can have some not-so-good side effects. Something else to remember is that people think the same about you! You have a blog, and that requires serious work and talent. I know that since I’m new to the blogging game, I’m low key envious of everyone who has an awesome blog. (That means you!)

    Also, I try to “treat” myself to something when I’m down. An extra cup of coffee or a pair of cheap $2 earrings on clearance at my favorite store. I don’t have a lot of money either so it has to be something that I won’t feel guilty doing. Or, I do my hair or paint my nails when I get home from work. 🙂

    • katiewinn

      Thank you so much for the kind words! Treating yourself to something nice and inexpensive is a great idea. When I feel down about my blog I look back at some of my first posts and see how far I really have come. I even visit some blogs I admire and find their first few posts to remind myself that they too came a long way to get where they are. Welcome to the blogging world CJ! Thank you for visiting and if you ever have any blogging questions feel free to ask! I still have a long way to go with my blog but I’d love to help and share any way I can!

  • this is just wonderful, Katie! the “comparison game” is a bad one for me, I’m basically the ONLY person I know even close to my age that’s married and has kids (well, one kid, but you know what I mean), and so far, we’ve had a REALLY hard life, it’s taken its toll on our relationship. so when all the happy couples are posting instagram photos of their spontaneous romantic weekend getaways, and I’m over here clipping coupons and wondering how the bills are going to get paid, it stings. even though I KNOW that people are only sharing the very best face and that it’s not an accurate look at their actual life, it gets to me sometimes. honestly, I’ve taken a BIG step back from social media, because really, it’s not healthy.

    • katiewinn

      I’m glad I’m not the only person that felt this way. Taking a step back from social media definitely is a good thing to do. It’s not worth it if you feel baf about yourself every time you look at it. I still enjoy Twitter and Instagram, but I’ve definitely started to stray away from Facebook. It’s just not worth it.

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