So, I’ve been feeling a bit down this week. Here’s the thing. We can be really hard on ourselves and things like Facebook, Instagram and Twitter make it that much easier to criticize. For me, wedding planning is overwhelming, being an adult is hard and my apartment is messy.
The worst thing is everyone I know is getting married or just got married. That’s a lot of wedding pictures and planning going on. That also means there’s a lot of wedding and life stuff happening across social media. I don’t know if it’s just me, but it seems like everyone is having beautiful weddings for their financially stable lives. And then there’s me…not that at all.
As I took a little bit of time today to
cry think about everything, I was able to refocus on reality. Happiness does not depend on other people. Playing the comparison game will get you nowhere. Taking a minute (or 90) helped me focus back on the happy, here’s some helpful tips get get you out of a slump.
Comparison is the thief of joy. I might be quoting something wrong, but it’s still true. You can’t judge a person’s life by what you see on social media. A picture might be worth a thousand words, but a Facebook album is not a biography. I read a blog by a girl I know who has fabulous clothes, and I have always wondered way more often than I should about how she can afford that life and how I wish I could. Then it occurred to me one day, I honestly don’t know if she even can afford that life.
People who seem to have the perfect wardrobe and perfect house can be in serious debt. Those with a seemingly perfect relationship may fight behind closed doors. Those who seem to have the perfect body may never be satisfied with what they see in the mirror. Don’t let what you see online make you forget that every person has issues.
THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU HAVE
There are people with less things than you and are happy. When I think about how someone just got new $200 boots or have all their wedding planning done, I try and think about what I have. Carl was able to buy his suit for the wedding at 70% off. I don’t have any student loans. My car is paid for. We have somewhere rent free to live after the wedding. I’m lucky enough to have a fantastic man who loves me, even if I don’t have a fabulous wardrobe. There’s always a reason to be grateful.
TAKE A BREAK FROM SOCIAL MEDIA
Facebook is a lie. Instagram has all those filters for a reason. And you can’t tell the whole story in 140 characters. Stop looking at all those sites and thinking they’re real life. Take a week or even just a day to focus on you, your family, your home, anything but what’s online. I don’t think anybody who has done this has regretted it.
START A GRATITUDE JOURNAL
Sometimes all you need is to sit down and think about all the things you are thankful for. Very few days are going to be 100% perfect, but there are always going to be moments to be thankful for each day. Start a journal and aim to write 5 things you’re thankful for each try. Even better, try and come up with something new each day.
What do you do when you’re feeling down?